Lessons learned: 2018


The holidays have never been my favorite time of the year. I could go on and on about the decorations, the expectations, the obligations, the assholes at the mall…but I won’t.

Oddly, I don’t feel quite so scrooge-like this year. Maybe it’s all the wine. I’ve consumed more than my fair share over the past week. Pretty sure my liver is completely pickled at this point. I have switched to lemon water in an effort to flush the system and reset. I even hefted my ass to the gym on Christmas Day. Never hurts to get a jump start on those pesky new year’s resolutions.

I won’t go so far as to say that I am feeling festive. That’s a stretch even in the most optimistic of times, but as I sit here in my pjs staring at the rapidly disintegrating evergreen wreath over my mantel, I am reflective.

While 2017 was a year straight out of Dante’s Inferno, 2018 wasn’t too bad. Here are a few things I learned this year:

Doctors inevitably insist that it takes six weeks to recovery from surgery. Any surgery. Big or small. Doesn’t matter. I’ve mentioned before that I had a bout with a little cancer. Breast cancer. Lost a boob. Had a little radiation. Got a new boob. Five surgeries in all. Every time – six weeks. No more. No less. Of course, I am who I am, and therefore the proverbial thorn in my doctor’s side. I do believe my medical chart comes with a black box warning indicating my penchant for noncompliance. I’m not programmed to sit around doing nothing when I could be doing something. During the last visit with my doctor, two weeks after my final surgery, I asked when I could return to the tennis court. He crossed his legs, leaned back in his chair and gave his nurse a bit of side eye. He knew what was coming.

“Four more weeks,” he said.

“No,” I said giving him my best resting bitch face. “Too long.”

My doctor is a kind man; intelligent; a respected leader in his specialty field. I’ve been his patient for two years. In that moment, he looked resigned, beaten down. He let out a long breath.

“When are you thinking?”

“Today.”

“Today?”

“Yes. This afternoon.”

He scrubbed a hand over his face and began to go through a long list of reasons why I should limit my activity for the remaining four weeks of my six week recovery. It’s a list I can recite from memory.

“Are you telling me no?” I asked, cutting him off mid-sentence. I can be blunt to the point of rudeness. It’s part of my charm.

“No, I would never tell you no, but…”

“Good. When’s my next follow up?”

“Three months.”

“Very good.”

By sundown, I was on the tennis court drilling with my team and I haven’t looked back. Fuck your six week rule.

“One does not get in shape playing tennis; one must get in shape to play tennis.” These words of wisdom were bestowed upon me just last week by my tennis coach. I love my coach. He’s an older gentleman, north of seventy with the patience of a saint and a brutal honesty that never lets me get too full of myself. As I’ve said, I have had five surgeries over the last 2 years and it goes without saying that it has taken a toll on my overall fitness. For every week off the court, I feel that I take two steps backwards in my progress towards becoming a better player.

I’ve never been a marathon runner….or a 5k runner…or a runner at all. In fact, I really hate running. Seriously. Hate it. A glaring contradiction for a tennis player who is looking to improve and win matches. My coach knows and understands this about me. He’s also not afraid to tell me I need to get my shit together. Last week, as he sat next to me on a bench while I tried to catch my breath, he gave me an assignment. He told me to run. Not just run. Run fast. Sprint. As fast as I can for a quarter length of track. Then rest. Then run as fast as I can again – repeating this pattern over and over and over.

I started on Christmas Day. I hated it and thought bad things about my coach the whole time. But he’s right. He’s always right. I want to win matches. I want to win and so I must run. I don’t have to like it, I just have to do it.

It’s okay to be selfish with my time. I think this is a plight shared by mothers and wives alike. We give so much of ourselves to those in our charge that we forget to save time for ourselves. And should we be blessed with a bit of alone time, we are plagued by guilt. Always – the guilt.  My daughter graduated six months ago and my life as a band mom came to an abrupt end.  I suddenly found myself in possession of a rare commodity – time.  Precious time.  Me time.  Time to do what I wanted, when I wanted and with whomever I wanted.  

At first, it’s a little overwhelming.  You aren’t quite sure what do with it, this golden egg that has dropped into your lap, seemingly out of thin air.  You look around to see if anyone sees what you see; to see if anyone steps into reclaim it.  When no one comes, you take it in your hand, wrap your fingers around it and hold it close to your breast.  

“Mine.”

The word lingers on your lips, a mere whisper at first, as soft and sweet as a baby’s breath.  

“Mine,” you say again.  

The word comes louder this time, with gusto.  Your confidence builds.  You scramble to your feet, still clutching the golden egg tight against your chest.  With the sound of your heart pounding in your ears, you take one last look around, just to be sure no one is watching.   Then slither off into the shadows, to the place where your secrets are kept. With a gentle hand, born out of the fear that the egg will dissolve into dust right before your very eyes, you tuck it away.  Nestling it safely among all the things you treasure most in life.  All the while, repeating a single word. 

“Mine…mine…mine…”     


Advertisement

Author: Peggy Isaacs

This is me. Is that you?

2 thoughts on “Lessons learned: 2018”

Leave me a comment. I'd love to hear what you think.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Red and Howling

Cartoons about dogs, cats & other animal friends

Discover WordPress

A daily selection of the best content published on WordPress, collected for you by humans who love to read.

Rebecca Bradley

Murder Down To A Tea

Steph Broadribb

the blog of mystery writer Steph Broadribb & Stephanie Marland

The Colony, Texas

City by the Lake

TCPL News Flash

Just another WordPress.com site

thoughts and entanglements

A collective of poems and photos. All photos taken by me unless stated otherwise.

Darkroomstory

Photography by Manos,

Wordsmith Six

Six writers who love words and who read, write and critique together.

Lightscapes Nature Photography Blog

Kerry Mark Leibowitz's musings on the wonderful world of nature photography

Ravenspen

My journey as a writer and my various hobby's .

Saphir Drachen - Writer

The Insanity of Fantasy

Random Acts of Writing

and other tidbits of thought

SM4 Writers

from Advanced Social/Media Services

Red and Howling

Cartoons about dogs, cats & other animal friends

Discover WordPress

A daily selection of the best content published on WordPress, collected for you by humans who love to read.

Rebecca Bradley

Murder Down To A Tea

Steph Broadribb

the blog of mystery writer Steph Broadribb & Stephanie Marland

The Colony, Texas

City by the Lake

TCPL News Flash

Just another WordPress.com site

thoughts and entanglements

A collective of poems and photos. All photos taken by me unless stated otherwise.

Darkroomstory

Photography by Manos,

Wordsmith Six

Six writers who love words and who read, write and critique together.

Lightscapes Nature Photography Blog

Kerry Mark Leibowitz's musings on the wonderful world of nature photography

Ravenspen

My journey as a writer and my various hobby's .

Saphir Drachen - Writer

The Insanity of Fantasy

Random Acts of Writing

and other tidbits of thought

SM4 Writers

from Advanced Social/Media Services

Pride in Photos

Beauty.Inspiration.Lifestyle.

the hour of soft light...

How do I know what I think until I see what I say? (E.M. Forster)

Top 10 of Anything and Everything

Animals, Travel, Casinos, Sports, Gift Ideas, Mental Health and So Much More!

Imagineer-ing

an adventure in reading, writing & publishing

Beau Barnett's blog

Random musings from a smart-aleck Jesus-loving sports obsessed wannabe writer.

Women People

Rants About Life/Art/Things

weaklyshortstories

Just another WordPress.com site

To Be Aware

It's all about disbelieving your thoughts

Bill Chance

This is Not Going to Turn Out Well

jmmcdowell

An archaeologist finds herself writing fiction — what stories will she unearth?

The Courage 2 Create

This is the story of me writing my first novel...and how life keeps getting in the way.

The Artist's Road

Patrick Ross on Creativity, Writing, and an Art-Committed Life

theintrinsicwriter

A topnotch WordPress.com site

Pete Denton

Writer of British Crime Fiction

Bundle of Books

Thoughts from a bookworm

Rewriting Amanda

A blog about Writing, Reading, and Reinventing your Life

The Absent Historian

Engrossed in books and study.

You're a Writer!

Ideas and encouragement for writers.

Rebecca Guevara, A voice of occasional reason.

Irma Prattle, who has a high rise condo behind my ear, pokes me to write, and when I’m finished she says, “Now, doesn’t that feel better?” My answer: “Yes and no.” I think she wants to be me.

cresting the words

surfing the ocean of language

The Sugarlump

A collection of the sweet morsels in my life

mikeosbornphoto

One man and his camera

cafethreezero

Just another WordPress.com site

New Author Publishing

Experience with me the trials and accomplishments of publishing a novel

%d bloggers like this: